The first rule of healing is learning to distinguish who deserves an explanation, who deserves only one answer, and who deserves absolutely nothing. After you figure this out, so much heaviness is removed from the load you have been carrying. And when your load is lighter, you feel like that stress is just released.
During this process of getting my life together, I am continuously learning who deserves my attention, or more importantly, who doesn’t. Not everybody that comes into your life is meant to stay there. You will outgrow people. You will have to leave people behind. They are no longer serving your life in a positive way. And to continue to entertain their presence is only holding you back.
You have to understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson, or recognize their mistakes. They will never acknowledge their faults, or even admit they were wrong. You’ll never receive an apology from them, nor will you ever change their behavior. And that’s just how it is.
It hurts to the core knowing this to be fact. People you thought would never hurt you do. They let you down over and over again. One day you think they might wake up and see what you do, but that’s wishful thinking. And learning to let go is even harder. You try so hard to not let it get to you, or hurt your feelings anymore, but it still hurts. I have had to learn that not everyone has the same heart I do, and the expectations that they do is unrealistic. Train yourself to let go of of everything you fear to lose. Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring; it means you stop forcing others to. What hurts can be healed; and no matter how dark it gets, the sun will rise again.
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